I think I have had an epiphany of sorts. I have come to realize that all my fetishes, in one way or another, are about some form of transformation. Even the gear and sports stuff; by wearing gear, I am transformed into a bro, a player, that I am not. I have followed a certain tumblr account for the last 5 months and today I decided to once again look at it, after I saw a recent post on Warp My Mind on dumbing down. (The guy who wrote the blog was once a participant of the dumbing down hypno series---it is funny how one things invariably leads to another). But in any case, between reading excerpts from this blog and then a chat recently with another fellow I met off of Warp My Mind, and then combined with my attempts to explain my fetishes to my new (potential) boyfriend (see last post), it has mixed together in my brain and clarity has emerged.
I had before classified my fetishes as three main parts, Addition/Blasphemy/Gear/Diapers. But these are in fact variations on the theme for a need to change, a need to be something that I am not, and that need is never fully realized, as I don't truly want to change all the way, but just play with it. Up to this point, I have never really thought of my gear as a change, but that is exactly what it is. I don't go out, wearing LA Gear hightops appropriate for a 14-year-old, why, because I want to became a dumb 14 year old. I like the transformation is brings. Now, while this is still the case, not all of it is strictly spiritual. All fetishes are either spiritual (action or situation) or plastic (physical objects). But that having been said, all plastic fetish relate in some way back to the idea of change. But they, in their own form, still hold levels of power. I know I am getting deep here, so let me try to explain it in a different way. What I mean, is--for example--I don't like plain blue basketball shorts, even if they would be what a basketballer would wear, I would prefer certain types, materials, color combinations, logos, etc. So, maybe in my mind these combination further enhance the ideal I am subconsciously aspiring towards? Like the perfect player, or bro, doing his thing, and getting off on how hot his gear makes him, how horny and turned on he feels when he is someone he is not, a hockey player, a diaper boy, an addicted masturbator, a dumb downed jock in hightops, an exChristian free to jerk off, a _________, anything but me (or perceived social inhibitions), because me is boring and un-sexual, I have to change to get off, or see the changes in others. The more I think on this, the more it makes sense. Even the other day I cam when I saw a guy who had went about to become a bed wetter succeeded at this odd task and was extremely satisfied with the results, confirming my fantasy desires.
This also explain, finally, why I am so diverse with my fetishes. I like so many diverse things, that on the surface, seem totally unrelated, but upon closer inspection are related, just into different ways. Now I don't want to be everything, so for some reason certain bro roles have a greater pull on me than others. Like, for instance, I do not fantasize about being a biker leather man, someone who I am not, but the people into that appear older, less sexual. I like twinks, and twink things to transform into: motocross, hockey, football, skater boy--all that bulky gear gets me off, its makes me more changed than how I am.
Thinking of all of this in this way has helped me figure it out, as the title of this blog suggests is its purpose. I love modifications. Now that I am about to embark in what appears to be the first serious same-sex relationship of my life, I think knowing these things are important. I think I need to know that I can be myself and still be happy, that I don't always need to change. I don't expect to toss out my fetishes overnight due to this revelation, but by understanding them, in a way I can control them. At least in a more constructive way. My issues of late have been a pre-occupation, at the cost of everything else, on masturbation and porn, and fetish. I am looking for ways to slow down, mainly because my future boy friend's sex drive is slower than my own, I am at hyper light speed and he is happily chugging along at 50 mph. Why am I at light speed, you ask? Well its all this need for transformation! The need to transform into an addicted bator, and with that transformation, there is a a reduction into a lesser being, a being with less control, who in turn yields to unimaginable waves of penial pleasure, the addiction just feels good, so we do it, but at the cost of a true transformation that is not desirable, nor sustainable, not if other life goals are to be pursued. If that doesn't work, switch to dumbing down, to bed wetting, to something else that is perceived as pleasurable reduction of control, as a modification and regression of achieved life goals and with that an escape from daily responsibilities.
So what does all this mean? I have no fucking clue, but at least I think I have all the puzzle pieces now. Modification is key to figuring this all out.
-------AT out
Sunday, May 31, 2015
Thursday, May 28, 2015
A New Person in My Life
I think for the first time since I started this blog, that I can say things are safely coming to an era of stability and growth. I have broken up with one boyfriend (his life goals were just not the same as my own), but on the heels of that I met someone new. This new person is acting as the stabilizing force as I see him (yes a second gay relationship) as someone who is descent and kind and not obsessed with sex. While is not a perfect fit in every regard, I do see him as the person I need in my life right now. We have not yet met, he lives about 5 hours away from me, but I feel that there will be opportunities in the future to meet, and I am already excited about it. He is into diapers, which is largely my key fetish. That helps so much, as I do not know if we would have met otherwise. I think he can fit into some of the other things that I am into, while I can learn to adjust to his needs and desires. All of this is speculative, of course. We have not even met, but I have high hopes for the future.
The main thing that has been eating away at me for a long time is the fact that I feel so incredibly lonely. And all the gear and fetishes in the world will not satisfy this basic, essential need. We need to be in relationship, that is how God made us to be. If I spend all my days masturbating to hockey porn (my latest fetish I am REALLY into) I may be satisfied in the short term, but over time that will never fully fulfill my needs. At this time, I am looking to wind down some of my addictions to masturbation, as I want to build up a desire to be with my new guy, and have him be the icing on my cake. I cannot underscore enough how all the problems of my past, the issues I keep coming back to in this blog, are solved when you just have a person in your life to share life's burdens and adventures with. It won't be easy, it will take sacrifice, but in the end, it will be worth it.
The update on my bate is that I jerk off once a day now, and cum about once every other day. It's still a big thing for me, but not as it was a month ago--the main reason is I am no longer doing the 50 day challenge, in which I promised myself to masturbate for the Easter season as an expression of celebration for the risen Lord. While masturbation is important to me, it will no longer be the be-all, end-all. I will certainly update if that changes.
The main thing that has been eating away at me for a long time is the fact that I feel so incredibly lonely. And all the gear and fetishes in the world will not satisfy this basic, essential need. We need to be in relationship, that is how God made us to be. If I spend all my days masturbating to hockey porn (my latest fetish I am REALLY into) I may be satisfied in the short term, but over time that will never fully fulfill my needs. At this time, I am looking to wind down some of my addictions to masturbation, as I want to build up a desire to be with my new guy, and have him be the icing on my cake. I cannot underscore enough how all the problems of my past, the issues I keep coming back to in this blog, are solved when you just have a person in your life to share life's burdens and adventures with. It won't be easy, it will take sacrifice, but in the end, it will be worth it.
The update on my bate is that I jerk off once a day now, and cum about once every other day. It's still a big thing for me, but not as it was a month ago--the main reason is I am no longer doing the 50 day challenge, in which I promised myself to masturbate for the Easter season as an expression of celebration for the risen Lord. While masturbation is important to me, it will no longer be the be-all, end-all. I will certainly update if that changes.
Friday, May 15, 2015
My life as a Christian masturbator
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Saturday, March 21, 2015
The New Me
I have been on a dangerous road of late, going from extremes of self pleasure, hypnosis, and fantasy. I think I need a change, I know I need a change. I was meaning to go back and re-read my post from late last year about my fetishes and how when taking them to their inevitable conclusion, they lead to some form of self-destruction. They are the three D's: Dumbing Down, Diapers, and Devil Worship. I have thankfully have pretty much stayed clear of the last one, I went onto Bible of Cock and read it to climax a few times, and that I consider Satanic due to the imagery of goat head beasts masturbation and inverted crosses and pentacles. Fortunately, I have not been drawn to go back, it leaves me hollow inside when I jerk off to that shit.
Diapers has stayed with me, in fact I am in a wet one now, very nice. Not necessarily self-destructive, but a life change if I go incont., which is always on my mind, but my better judgement prevents me from entertaining the notion, its just easier to wear when I can and am so inclined to. I hate to be so morbid, but I won't go incont. as long as my parents are alive. I am so often with them, on trips and visits, and I just cannot bear to tell them I want to wear diapers, so they will never know, if I have any say about it. Needless to say, I am in a holding pattern with diapers, and just will carry on as I've always have.
Now for the last, dumbing down. Okay, so here's the deal. I had a friend, someone who PM'ed me on WMM, hypnosis website, that said I should do it. I chatted with him and he seemed to indicate that I can do this this "permanent" file and be okay, maintain my current level of thinking, work performance, personal obligations, responsibilities, and hobbies. Like this was just some side thing to help me relax and get me off. But there more I thought about it, the more I realized it is trashing the neat well-kept, library of my brain. It is an aggressive file, made to change you, make you not think. I have been told it is not really "permanent", but I have seen the effects the files has had on perfectly normal people who are made into perfect idiots by listening to the files. Sure, they feel good about it, but I just don't like the idea of someone going into my brain and messing with it, altering my memories, my learning, my accomplishments. I have been told I am making a huge deal about it, and so I did it, I listened to file 1, all the way, until I cam. It did feel good, but I had a sense of uneasiness all day, and I just can't shake that I am doing someone horrible to myself.
Then all of this got me praying. I am not really spiritually anymore, I go to church and believe God is real, but I don't pray anymore, at least not regularly. I did today, I prayed that God would lead me to where I need to go with this. I had such a sense of indecision. Do I do this, or not? Part of me wanted to and part did not, and they both seemed equally matched, so neither side would win. As soon as I would resolve one way, the other would fight back. Then, as I said, I prayed, and I saw a file about being made straight. I know the idea is preposterous. No one can be made to be straight or gay, right? I mean it takes a life time of nurture and genetics predisposition to inform one's sexual identity. I get that, but for me I am not 100% gay, I am somewhere helplessly lost in the middle, unsure about myself, who I am, what I need and want. I cannot find a guy on Match.com I like, I have been on the site for months. So far no matches in my area. I live in a conservative area, so there just dosn't seem to be that many out gays around. I don't want to move away just to meet a guy, that strikes me as rash. So if a file can make someone dumb, I have seen the proof in posts that are literally ridiculous, every word misspelled. If that can happen, why can't a file make you straight by the same methods? I know it may be a waste of time, but I am going to give it a go. If I fail, great, I know I am gay and there is nothing I can do about it, I will stay on my same course. If it DOES change me, then a whole new world of tits and pussy will open up to me, my family and friends will look on my approvingly. I will make everyone happy, espcially myself. There will be zero doubt about the faith question, there will be no one to accuse me of living in sin, even the most conservative of them all. Strangely it still matters to me what evangelicals think of me, I wonder if there is a file for that too? Probably... I will keep you all informed, sorry for typos, not checking for them.
Diapers has stayed with me, in fact I am in a wet one now, very nice. Not necessarily self-destructive, but a life change if I go incont., which is always on my mind, but my better judgement prevents me from entertaining the notion, its just easier to wear when I can and am so inclined to. I hate to be so morbid, but I won't go incont. as long as my parents are alive. I am so often with them, on trips and visits, and I just cannot bear to tell them I want to wear diapers, so they will never know, if I have any say about it. Needless to say, I am in a holding pattern with diapers, and just will carry on as I've always have.
Now for the last, dumbing down. Okay, so here's the deal. I had a friend, someone who PM'ed me on WMM, hypnosis website, that said I should do it. I chatted with him and he seemed to indicate that I can do this this "permanent" file and be okay, maintain my current level of thinking, work performance, personal obligations, responsibilities, and hobbies. Like this was just some side thing to help me relax and get me off. But there more I thought about it, the more I realized it is trashing the neat well-kept, library of my brain. It is an aggressive file, made to change you, make you not think. I have been told it is not really "permanent", but I have seen the effects the files has had on perfectly normal people who are made into perfect idiots by listening to the files. Sure, they feel good about it, but I just don't like the idea of someone going into my brain and messing with it, altering my memories, my learning, my accomplishments. I have been told I am making a huge deal about it, and so I did it, I listened to file 1, all the way, until I cam. It did feel good, but I had a sense of uneasiness all day, and I just can't shake that I am doing someone horrible to myself.
Then all of this got me praying. I am not really spiritually anymore, I go to church and believe God is real, but I don't pray anymore, at least not regularly. I did today, I prayed that God would lead me to where I need to go with this. I had such a sense of indecision. Do I do this, or not? Part of me wanted to and part did not, and they both seemed equally matched, so neither side would win. As soon as I would resolve one way, the other would fight back. Then, as I said, I prayed, and I saw a file about being made straight. I know the idea is preposterous. No one can be made to be straight or gay, right? I mean it takes a life time of nurture and genetics predisposition to inform one's sexual identity. I get that, but for me I am not 100% gay, I am somewhere helplessly lost in the middle, unsure about myself, who I am, what I need and want. I cannot find a guy on Match.com I like, I have been on the site for months. So far no matches in my area. I live in a conservative area, so there just dosn't seem to be that many out gays around. I don't want to move away just to meet a guy, that strikes me as rash. So if a file can make someone dumb, I have seen the proof in posts that are literally ridiculous, every word misspelled. If that can happen, why can't a file make you straight by the same methods? I know it may be a waste of time, but I am going to give it a go. If I fail, great, I know I am gay and there is nothing I can do about it, I will stay on my same course. If it DOES change me, then a whole new world of tits and pussy will open up to me, my family and friends will look on my approvingly. I will make everyone happy, espcially myself. There will be zero doubt about the faith question, there will be no one to accuse me of living in sin, even the most conservative of them all. Strangely it still matters to me what evangelicals think of me, I wonder if there is a file for that too? Probably... I will keep you all informed, sorry for typos, not checking for them.
Saturday, February 14, 2015
Feeling Kinda Down Today
Today got off with a rough start, not that this is that unusual for me, but it seem that despite my best intentions to communicate love and acceptance to people, it gets perceived as bullying by others. I am not a bully, never have been and never would want to be one. I think the issue here is definitions. To me a bully is someone of activity seeks out to intimidate and harm another person in order to make themselves feel better. They call someone names, and rejoices in seeing the other person get torn down. I do not do those things, nor would I want to do them. I was bullied as a kid and I know how much it hurts the other person. I think what is at issue here is bad communication. I say A the other person hear's B, even if I never wanted to say B that is what they hear, and so then they come back with C, I am a bully. This has left me upset, to say the least, as I pride myself in being a loving, accepting person, not quick to judge. I have sought out friends who do not have other friends, the socially marginalized, as I know they need a person in their lives to be their friend.
I know I am rambling here, I am in a bit of a state, I suppose. All morning I have been stewing over am email from a friend who said that he thought I was bullying someone else, a mutual friend of ours, when from my perspective, he was the one who pulled away from me, and the only reason he did was because I would not comply with some things he was wanting me to do, that I didn't understand what he was up to, so I stopped and asked a few questions, and this has "ticked him off" and so he just left, no word of explanation. Just because I question the motives of another person, for my own personal safety ---he was trying to do something to me, like hypnosis or something, although I am not sure, as it didn't get that far---it does not make me a bully! I think the issue in full is that this person who emailed me seemed to take the other guy's story without asking me first what happened from my perspective. I have sense tried to correct the issue, there is nothing else I know to do. I also have no idea how to not be me, if I am a bully by nature and I have no perception of it, then I don't know how to change sense I don't know what behaviors I did that affected the other person. I feel like I am speaking French and they are speaking Chinese. We are just not communicating, and it gets to me. Here I have so few friends, friends who understand me, for who I am, and I seem to be the one who gets to pay the price, by being isolated and alone, and on St. Valentines Day. Yeah, it's not that bad, I do have friends and people I can talk to, a special friend I have that I look forward to chatting with, but it seems like it's the little things that get to you, and this is one of those things.
I have more I could talk about, but am not wanting to touch on those aspects just now, as I have my day before me and more I need to do around the house. I am still into the dumbing down fetish, but am staying away from jumping full into the files. I don't feel remarkably dumb just now, so I think everything is okay. More later.
I know I am rambling here, I am in a bit of a state, I suppose. All morning I have been stewing over am email from a friend who said that he thought I was bullying someone else, a mutual friend of ours, when from my perspective, he was the one who pulled away from me, and the only reason he did was because I would not comply with some things he was wanting me to do, that I didn't understand what he was up to, so I stopped and asked a few questions, and this has "ticked him off" and so he just left, no word of explanation. Just because I question the motives of another person, for my own personal safety ---he was trying to do something to me, like hypnosis or something, although I am not sure, as it didn't get that far---it does not make me a bully! I think the issue in full is that this person who emailed me seemed to take the other guy's story without asking me first what happened from my perspective. I have sense tried to correct the issue, there is nothing else I know to do. I also have no idea how to not be me, if I am a bully by nature and I have no perception of it, then I don't know how to change sense I don't know what behaviors I did that affected the other person. I feel like I am speaking French and they are speaking Chinese. We are just not communicating, and it gets to me. Here I have so few friends, friends who understand me, for who I am, and I seem to be the one who gets to pay the price, by being isolated and alone, and on St. Valentines Day. Yeah, it's not that bad, I do have friends and people I can talk to, a special friend I have that I look forward to chatting with, but it seems like it's the little things that get to you, and this is one of those things.
I have more I could talk about, but am not wanting to touch on those aspects just now, as I have my day before me and more I need to do around the house. I am still into the dumbing down fetish, but am staying away from jumping full into the files. I don't feel remarkably dumb just now, so I think everything is okay. More later.
Thursday, February 5, 2015
The Ups and Downs of Life
As usual, I wish I had more time to devote to this post of my blog. There is more going on in my life right now than I have time to translate into words, in fact I will not check this post for typos, not to turn anyone onto dumbing down, but due to the aforementioned time restraints! Such is life.
Ok, so onto what;s going on. I am spending way too much time fixated on dumbing down, hypnosis, and speaking to friends who are into dumbing down. Not that any of these things are bad, or even lead to bad choices right now for me, but it has become my chief purpose foregoing all other passions, and practices. Prayer? Ha, out the window, I never pray. Not that I don't believe, I do, but it has become a lower priority. Last night I had Law and Order on my TV, ready to watch, it remained unwatched, why? Was reading the dumbing down threads and masturbating to them. I have even heard masturbation hypnosis that is designed to get you more chronically addicted to it. I find I have to constantly hide from my roommate, I am constantly in some kind of compromised state. I am not reading, working on my novel, bearly keeping up with chores. And has this obsession gotten me so far? Well it got me masturbating and horny all the time, but beyond that there is not much to show for it. I know that much of this angst is about my need to be productive, but man I do have goals in life and I am not doing a thing to meet them right now.
I titled this post the ups and down of life because when I am into this stuff, I am very happy, its a rush of endorphins. I love it, gets me so horny and addicted, but then when its over I feel utterly alone. This constant up and down, I know its not healthy, I know I need help, but I keep telling myself I have this covered, I don't need to spend $100 an hour for a therapist for him to tell me I need to not look at warp my mind anymore, I get it, the stuff makes you crazy. My problem is living the straight and narrow is just boring to me. I am not interested in reading books about Henry VIII or Lewis and Clark, I know I need to be, but I'm not. I'm not interested in deepening my academic knowledge on gay marriage and the church and if the Bible says its okay, I ma so over that now, I don't care, I know in my heart its not a sin, do I need to read 1000 pages on line about it? (I had a friend who wrote this and wants me to read it, which is so tedious and boring.
Maybe its the horniness, my sex drive just wants more and more and more, and it won't stop. Is this addiction? Maybe. I want to say so much more, but no time. I will come back and post more soon.
Ok, so onto what;s going on. I am spending way too much time fixated on dumbing down, hypnosis, and speaking to friends who are into dumbing down. Not that any of these things are bad, or even lead to bad choices right now for me, but it has become my chief purpose foregoing all other passions, and practices. Prayer? Ha, out the window, I never pray. Not that I don't believe, I do, but it has become a lower priority. Last night I had Law and Order on my TV, ready to watch, it remained unwatched, why? Was reading the dumbing down threads and masturbating to them. I have even heard masturbation hypnosis that is designed to get you more chronically addicted to it. I find I have to constantly hide from my roommate, I am constantly in some kind of compromised state. I am not reading, working on my novel, bearly keeping up with chores. And has this obsession gotten me so far? Well it got me masturbating and horny all the time, but beyond that there is not much to show for it. I know that much of this angst is about my need to be productive, but man I do have goals in life and I am not doing a thing to meet them right now.
I titled this post the ups and down of life because when I am into this stuff, I am very happy, its a rush of endorphins. I love it, gets me so horny and addicted, but then when its over I feel utterly alone. This constant up and down, I know its not healthy, I know I need help, but I keep telling myself I have this covered, I don't need to spend $100 an hour for a therapist for him to tell me I need to not look at warp my mind anymore, I get it, the stuff makes you crazy. My problem is living the straight and narrow is just boring to me. I am not interested in reading books about Henry VIII or Lewis and Clark, I know I need to be, but I'm not. I'm not interested in deepening my academic knowledge on gay marriage and the church and if the Bible says its okay, I ma so over that now, I don't care, I know in my heart its not a sin, do I need to read 1000 pages on line about it? (I had a friend who wrote this and wants me to read it, which is so tedious and boring.
Maybe its the horniness, my sex drive just wants more and more and more, and it won't stop. Is this addiction? Maybe. I want to say so much more, but no time. I will come back and post more soon.
Saturday, January 24, 2015
Update on Stuff
This won't be long, I have a lot I need to get to today, and the day is already half over! I have not been doing the dumbing down files, but rather just trying to find everything on the internet about them and those who do, do them and seeing the effects on their diction. This has kept me going for some days and in a sense I have been in a fog with this still, but I do have other things I am doing, social events, work, etc., that is breaking this up so I am not totally immersed. I have seen some of the darker sides of Fet Life and it has been sobering, to say the least. I am not sure how far I will ever go into some of these fetishes as they seem to be all consuming.
The upshot of all of this is my latest fixation on dumbing down, which has dominated my sexual life for the last two weeks (man I wish I kept my log still!!! Why was I ever talked out of keeping this?) appears to be gradually fading away. It (as with any fetish) is fueled my some sort of media, be it visual, writing, etc., and so when this media is exhausted, there is no more fuel for the fire. This is a weird fetish, I don't need images, I need to see people's dumbing down, particularly if they were smart once and then became dumb. The irony of all of this is when it work --truly works-- you will not hear from the subjects who dumbed down, they will no longer have the desire or ability to post on their progress and certainly will lack all capacity to reflect on it. So I really can only see glimpses into people's lives as they are doing it, and then they fall off, never to be heard from again on line. It is scary, but seems to be the only way to get any info. on it.
I know in the long run, that it will be better for me to run out of media to consume. At some point I need to carry on with my life and do what I need to do. If I won't take the plunge all the way, then there is no point looking longingly over that cliff, imagining I am jumping and watching those who have.
The upshot of all of this is my latest fixation on dumbing down, which has dominated my sexual life for the last two weeks (man I wish I kept my log still!!! Why was I ever talked out of keeping this?) appears to be gradually fading away. It (as with any fetish) is fueled my some sort of media, be it visual, writing, etc., and so when this media is exhausted, there is no more fuel for the fire. This is a weird fetish, I don't need images, I need to see people's dumbing down, particularly if they were smart once and then became dumb. The irony of all of this is when it work --truly works-- you will not hear from the subjects who dumbed down, they will no longer have the desire or ability to post on their progress and certainly will lack all capacity to reflect on it. So I really can only see glimpses into people's lives as they are doing it, and then they fall off, never to be heard from again on line. It is scary, but seems to be the only way to get any info. on it.
I know in the long run, that it will be better for me to run out of media to consume. At some point I need to carry on with my life and do what I need to do. If I won't take the plunge all the way, then there is no point looking longingly over that cliff, imagining I am jumping and watching those who have.
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